Tuesday, September 30, 2014

"I Can't Leave My Boyfriend"

.. I had a conversation with a woman awhile ago and she said, "You don't know what I'm going through with my boyfriend. He treats me so bad and uses me."
I can somewhat relate because some of my relationships were a hot mess too when I was single.. but my question is, "WHAT ARE YOU LETTING OTHER PEOPLE PUT YOU THROUGH?!"  You don't HAVE to stay in that dysfunction boyfriend, girlfriend relationship! I stayed in bad relationships because I wanted to! Let's just call it like it is! You are dependent on that loser boyfriend that God told you to leave forever ago. He told you that if you only trust Him & let go that HE is going to blow your mind! God told you that but you believe the words of the illegal thighs in your bed over God. Your boyfriend is your god. You study him, read his emails, stalk his cell phone and his life has become your bible. You spend more time & energy at his feet than  you do the feet of Jesus. So, when your idol treats you badly, you accept it because he lords over you.
Did you know that one day you will stand before God & be judged on ever sermon, every book, every blog that you read? You cannot say that you didn't know better. You simply keep CHOOSING that lifestyle of sin. And sis, let's not use grace as an excuse to STAY in sin, God graces us so we don't GO back to the sin & we stay away from it. He gives us a way OUT. 
So, this blog aint for everybody. But God put it on my heart to post this for the few of you that are in BAD relationships and you need that extra push to get out. Stop rationalizing & wondering.. how you're going to make it without him. You will  be just fine and God will help you out of it. Move out of his house and start depending on God again. You cannot afford to be out of the will of God for your life and people in the BODY of Christ need you to get into position! They NEED your gifts & talents and you're up here distracted by a man that hates your God. 
By faith, step out and trust God. Let it go. NOW, go on & do the will of the Father. 
(And.. when you get tested (and you will)- write these scriptures out or the ones that minister to you & stare at them until they become more real than your raging feelings.)
Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.
1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.
And I blogged on, "We Just Broke Up, Now What?"-- check it out. 
God Loves you like Crazy!
Heather Lindsey 
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  1. I had this problem! I didn't have peace about the guy I was with but I was having trouble letting him go. God used things such as your blog posts about Letting Go and Being Unequally Yoked to continue to impress on me that I needed to let the guy go. So, I decided to do it and told him I needed to let him go and he needed to let me go. He refused but I had to be obedient. I changed my number (twice; he somehow got my new one the first time) and take my pain to the Lord when it comes up and each day gets easier and easier then I read blog posts like this that confirm I made the right decision. Thank you and God bless you!

  2. Heather, how I wish I had read this blog three years ago. I would have been spared so much heartache. But I still had no excuse, because there were all the warnings. And I didn't move on as quickly as I should have when I finally met Jesus for the first time, but two years ago I finally did and grace set me free! My life has never been better since that day because I left him and came running to God completely and wholeheartedly. I lovingly and strongly encourage ANY and EVERY girl in my and Heather's former shoes to act quickly and not to worry about the guy's feelings, worry about your salvation and the purposes and plans that God has for you that you are missing out on! The Lord can get you through letting go, and He is able to comfort you throughout any pain or withdrawal you think you may feel...nothing, though, feels better than knowing you are right with God and walking righteously, this I can promise you! Stop hiding out in the dark sisters, come out to the Light, because you were meant to SHINE.

  3. God led me right to this post because I needed this for confirmation and encouragement. But what do you do when you have a lease that you can't get out of legally without excessive fees?

  4. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  5. I was in an unhealthy relationship. He treated me so bad. I'm embarrassed that I stayed with him as long as I did. Three months after our relationship ended I ran into his sister and she showed me pictures from his wedding... I feel so broken, hurt, and embarrassed all while he's enjoying his life. God gave me confirmation to leave him and I did but I went back numerous times hoping he changed. All because I was worried about never finding someone else. I'm embarrassed that I went back to him after praying about it and getting confirmation not to go. Lesson to self listen to God.

  6. Confirmation thank you lord

  7. What do you do when you have children with this person?

  8. It may be a 2014 post but this was for me,though I got to read it this year,it doesn't change the fact that I was one of those girls that needed an extra push!! All glory to God

  9. It may be a 2014 post,but the Lord is amazing, i'm only seeing this now and guess what?i'm one of those girls that needed that extra push


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