Tuesday, March 5, 2013

"Sloppy Words"





As I near the end of my pregnancy (39 weeks) I have found that just because you're pregnant, people don't tell you their beautiful pregnancy and labor stories-- they tell you the most horrific, crazy experiences that they went through and their mama went through. It's almost like you have a sign on your head at the grocery store that says: "I want to hear your worst experiences." As with anything in life, you MUST guard your heart against what people SAY. Why are we walking around just "signing for everybody's sorry packages" about our LIFE? The bible gives us FULL instructions on HOW to LIVE regarding being single, married, raising children, dealing with family members, working on your job & EVERYTHING else. Why do we RUN to all these other sources and ignore the MAIN source of life? I don't know about you but I don't have time to entertain the lies of this world. So, in light of me giving birth and just reflecting on everything over the past 9 months, I want to remind you of the following:

1. Humans don't know everything. There's no formula for ANYTHING. What may work for someone else (they met their hubby at church, one person may give birth at 38 weeks vs. 40 weeks) may NOT work for you. Be VERY selective in what you allow to be planted in your heart. You may meet your God-fearing, fine husband at the mall or at the grocery store! Why would you limit the God of Israel based on what you can see? God can IMPORT a man, He can OPEN up a barren womb, He can OPEN up a position at a company JUST for YOU. Just because this can be true, it cannot be your FOCUS. Our focus is on CHRIST. You never know. Even in my own life, my husband and I were pregnant in March of 2011 and we were excited until we found out that the sac was empty at the first ultrasound. There was no child-- just a growing sac. My body rejected the sac in May 2011 and I went through a painful miscarriage of the sac. I experienced ALL the things that came with pregnancy (symptoms) but had no child to show for it. I continued to experience problems with my body for a few more months. When we got pregnant again and found out in June of 2012.. I had a choice. I could sit around and FEAR that there wouldn't be a child or understand Ecclesiastes 3:2 that says there's a "time to be born." It wasn't my TIME to get pregnant OR for my son to be born and NOW I understand it! Pinky Promise started in January 2012 & I'm confident if I would have given birth in November 2011 that I would have been TOO busy to focus on a brand new ministry which as taken up a ton of my time! I had to LEARN to trust God's timing. PERIOD. 

2. If you don't know the bible for yourself, someone will feed you their opinions. It's simple, if you don't have a standard then someone else will set it for you. You can't just let people's words & opinions push you around like the wind!! Can you compare to a piece of paper that is being tossed around by the wind.. kinda going wherever the weather pushes it? Or are you like that TREE that is planted by the rivers of water that brings forth fruit in it's season and its leaf doesn't wither and whatever it does -- does well? (Psalm 1:3). So STUDY the bible DAILY. Look up scriptures on things that you struggle with-- don't just walk around blind to what the bible says, accepting what everyone tells you!

3. Fear. For example, if you're believing God for a husband, pregnancy, salvation for your husband, a change in your child or whatever the case, you must hold on to what you believe to be true. It's because of your aunt's 4th divorced advice, you think that marriage would never work. It's because your girlfriends son who is the same age as your son.. and "this & that happened to him" so now the idea has been introduced in your heart and in the back of your mind, fear is growing and your faith is being attacked. We should listen to stories of HOPE and be encouraged that God hasn't forgotten about us! Don't let these silly distractions have you so messed up that you're believing the lie more than you're believing God's truth!

4. Stop watching Scandal. Ok. Scandal is JUST an example and I've never watched the show. But based on what people tweet and post about.. it sounds like there's some adultery & sex scenes. So as you lay down tonight, whether single or married you could 1. Wish you had someone with you that you aren't married to OR 2. You're married but now you're imagining yourself sexually with someone from your past. You may not get attacked right away but a seed was PLANTED. One day, your husband just won't be good enough, being single & just "trusting God" won't be as enticing especially since you've been waiting soooo long. You may think that I'm extreme. You may think that it doesn't "take all that." But living for Christ will cost you your LIFE. Satan is SEARCHING for an open door in your heart & you GIVE him an open door & then you DEFEND the open door. There's other silly shows out there that are filled with drama, unhealthy friendships and so much more. Guard your heart against these things. Turn off your cable. Do your part. This goes for music as well. I know you love your Beyonce but she's framing your thinking. And please, don't send me emails challenging your music- if God hasn't already convicted you-- go to Him & ask Him His thoughts on it. :) 

5. YOUR part. Ok, sis- You have a responsibility. Yes, you do. What do you spend your time doing? Do you spend 14 hours on facebook, 8 hours of your day at work or school, an hour working out and then you open up your bible for 5 minutes to read 1 scripture and think that you're approved? Do you just go to church on Sunday to get your fix.. but ignore God the rest of the week? Do you only go to God when you're heartbroken or down or do you constantly seek and PURSUE Him? What if someone only came to you when they needed something? Wouldn't you feel .. a bit used? Do you really want a relationship with God or do you want what you think He can do for you? God has a personality.. a heart. He grieves. He cares. He's jealous for YOU. You must spend time with God daily. Do your PART. Remember, we spend time with God for OUR good, not for "His good." HE IS GOD. 

As I mentioned above, I'm about to give birth! :) I am currently writing a book on how to stay fit & fabulous pregnant so I cannot wait to share it!! I am going to try to keep you all updated on Baby Boy Lindsey but grace me as I get adjusted to mommy-hood!

1. If you live in Atlanta, I want to invite you to our church. Join us on Sundays at 11:00am at Landmark Art Cinemas. Our churches name is: "The Gathering Oasis" (there's another church that holds service there too). 931 Monroe Drive NE Atlanta, GA- in Theatre 6.

2. My book is selling like crazy! I'm so thankful for all of you that have supported! Check it out here: My New Book! Pink Lips & Empty Hearts:  www.PinkLipsAndEmptyHearts.com

3. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 11,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here: www.PinkyPromiseMovement.com 

4. To purchase cross rings, tote bags, fabulous shirts, purity rings & all that other good stuff-- go here: Pinky Promise Store 


P.S. If you've asked me questions on here-- know that I'm not ignoring you! I get THOUSANDS of emails & questions and it's super hard to get to each one. Thanks for your patience during this busy time!

God loves you like crazy!

Heather Lindsey























25 comments:

  1. Mrs. Lindsey, this post was truly on time for me. Thank you for your encouraging words of hope! I pray many blessings for you and your growing family. :-)

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  2. This was well written, and filled with insightful advice, based on the word of God. Thank you Heather, for been so transparent about your life, and your work with God. it has blessed so many lives. I wish you a safe delivery. you'll become an incredible mother I have no doubt in my mind. BBL is blessed to have parents who love God and are great examples to people all over the world.

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  3. Thank you JESUS for a great message.

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  4. God Bless you Heather you always know when to make a blog...

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  5. Any advice for broken marriages? I'm really at a crossroad. I have no real trust in my husband and I feel he doesn't take my feelings seriously. I need help.

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  6. i thank GOD for your writings Mrs Lindsey! so much cause He gives me through this a new post on my blog but above all for the reason to believe His word which says "to obey is better than sacrifice". Have a blessed day you and family.

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  7. Thanks for your transparency. I would have never thought that you went through that in 2011. God Bless you Heather and thanks for encouraging me to Christ daily.

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  8. Thank you so much for this post Heather! I've only been married over a year and my Husband and I get the "So, when are you going to have kids?!" At first I would brush it off, but then lately it's been, "How old are you? You do know the longer you wait you could have complications and the baby could have this issue or that issue!" I have been angry about it, but then after praying about it, i feel better. I just don't get why people don't think before they speak. You never know what could be the reasons why people don't have kids. Thank you again for these right on time posts!

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  9. Great post, I look forward to purchasing your book and sharing with other ladies!

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  10. People can be so inconsiderate and silly! I am happpy that you wrote this blog post, and I pray for the safe birth of BBL with zero complications.

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  11. Thanks so much for this message. at times i be wanting to doubt God but as i read your status updates and blogs, etc. I Know that He hears and sometimes i feel like your messages be especially for me. Can't wait to purchase your book and read it. Thanks again and to God be the Glory!

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  12. i think i love this post the most. i'm speechless at the story. i can't imagine going through something like that. but to explain it the way that you did, in terms of timing? that is truly an insight from God, one that i need to start applying to my life. i'm also glad that you touched upon Satan looking for a door. i speak to my youth group about that all the time, but they think i'm being paranoid. the thing is, they tend to underestimate the enemy b/c they can't see him, which i don't blame them for. i think that a degree of spiritual maturity must come before they understand how things like that may affect them, and i pray for them daily. thank you again for this very helpful post. may God continue to bless you and your family!

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  13. WOW I felt like you were speaking directly to me. All the points mentioned, I am or have gone through each one. I feel like how can I come to God after letting him down so many times. And now I have the conviction in my heart that enough is enough, I now want to allow Jesus to transform my life, but will he take me seriously?

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  14. It is at times like these when I just feel like weeping because this was directed to me, so literally! I can't believe it. I can't get over how God constantly speaks to me only for me to ignore that voice and ultimately be spoken to in ways I did not expect, like right now. I'm so thankful that he spoke to me through you. Thanks Heather.

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  15. I tried to read this at work earlier and could not because I would have been in there SHOUTING. This is as true as it gets. I thank God for your obedient witness. As always you and your family are lifted in prayer. Blessings!

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  16. HEATHER THIS IS ONE OF YOUR BEST POSTS BY FAR!! OMG HEATHER YOU WENT IN!!! YOU SPOKE THE TRUTH! PREACH!! So much conviction in this post! I love you Heather and I pray that you have a safe delivery in JESUS MIGHTY NAME I PRAY WITH THANKSGIVING! AMEN! May GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY! AMEN! :)

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  17. Thank you so much for posting this! I really needed to read this today. God bless you and your family!:)

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  18. Heather this is by far the best blog I've ever read, you mentioned the very same thing that I mention to girls I counsel, like when you talked about guarding our hearts, and no listening to all kinds of music. I feel for the people being blinded by the enemy, I pray God will set them free. Thanks again for posting.

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  19. Whew!!!!!! Is all I can say! Also, before I read this blog I was thinking, Heather should write a book on how to look fabulous pregnant. You held it together beautifully! BBL is blessed with such a classy Mama :)

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  20. I thought I was the only one getting hyped by this post. My coworker must think I'm crazy lol! Thanks Heather!

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  21. Thank you!!!God bless!

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  22. Hi Lindsey, I must say that I recently confessed to God how I am scared that I would lose my boyfriend. He is truly a great, man of God and it is I who had been off the chain because I always thought love came from the feelings you have for a person. (The first time i knew love was when i dated my ex of 10.5 years.) I never heard i love you from my parents or siblings. So I was 15 when i heard it for the first time. I never even acknowleged God or Jesus as my first love because I didnt know. But anywho, reading this blog was great because it is true when you said "Just because this can be true, it cannot be your FOCUS. Our focus is on CHRIST." My focus was sooooo wrong. And since I've cried out to God, I still find that I have to give the fear to Him as often as it comes up. But nonetheless, I knew my focus needed to be on Him. I thank God for the confirmations He sends thru ur blogs (and of course other scriptural material). :-)

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  23. I read this at the right time. Good word!

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  24. I'm kinda late reading this, but thank you sooo much for this post! I really needed to read this message during this time in my life; I especially needed #s 1,3,&5. God Bless & congrats on your little one! :)

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