Thursday, December 27, 2012

Where is my Ring??!





So, everybody around you is getting engaged! Every day you log onto facebook you find that YET another person is engaged! Although you're happy for them, deep down-- you're thinking umm.. ANOTHER PERSON?! UGH! WHEN IS MY TIME?!??! You go to church, pray, spend time with God, you're living right but HOW is it that all of your unsaved co-workers are now engaged.. or all your friends are engaged, married.. having kids but you find yourself.. still single. 

I just want to encourage you today sis. I have felt how you've felt and I have been where you've been. First and foremost, you have got to stop comparing your life to another person. You've heard this before but I'm going to remind you that you're a Christian. You have the Holy Spirit living on the inside of you. Do you know what that means to all of heaven??! You've been adopted, set apart, pulled aside, HIDDEN and PROTECTED under the care of CHRIST. Do you think He's going to just let you run off any marry some of anybody??! Anybody can get a ring honey. You can walk outside and pick a random up off the street and make him marry you. Proverbs 24:1 says: Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them. So.. that should clear up being jealous of a bunch of random unsaved people that are getting engaged. They don't belong to Christ which means that CHRIST has no say-so in their relationships! The WORST feeling in the world is for you to walk down the aisle to a man that you KNOW God didn't tell you to marry! Yes, God is always speaking. He's always with you. Are you listening? And this isn't the time to run and preach to them that they shouldn't be getting married if they aren't saved. Bashing them over the head with the bible once engaged won't make them run to Christ. Just smile, hug them and say congratulations while you pray for their salvation.

Each season in your life will develop to the next one. If you're worrying non-stop about getting married, you'll finally get married and then you'll worry about kids. "Everybody is having kids and you don't have any kids." Then, you'll finally get pregnant and then you'll compare yourself to all of the other pregnant women and worry about your entire pregnancy. Then, kids will finally come and then you will compare your kids to everybody else's child. Do you see how destructive this cycle is??! And remember, we're Christians. Jesus is so clear to us when He tells us.. 

Philippians 4:6-7
6 Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

So.. are you allowing His peace to guard your mind during this season of your life? Or are you on a mad search to "finds you a man?" I want to encourage you to get off of your dating sites as you "SEEK" a spouse and get on your face before God & "SEEK" Him. Don't let being single make you bitter sis. GET UP!  You shouldn't be in that waiting room waiting for him! Single life is NOT a waiting room for MARRIAGE. Marriage is ministry and if you were lazy with your walk with God while single when you get married, you'll get smacked in the face by the EFFORT that it takes to make a marriage GOOD & last. We wait for cars, we wait at the doctors, we wait for the train, we wait for appointments. And when the mechanic, our ride, the doctor or the train is LATE.. we get frustrated! We look at our watch & we're like come ON!! If you don't know what train you're supposed to get on, you'll hop on any train that comes because you're TIRED of waiting. Some of us have been on the wrong train for awhile and we need to get off of it because it's PUSHING us further and further away from our destination. Some of us have been "dating" men that we WISH would marry us but we know deep down that that fool has zero standards and no relationship with God. He won't spend time with God, he won't pray, he would rather play with your body then study the bible, he is CLEARLY not husband material but you would rather in that moment forgo being SINGLE than to have to deal with being lonely again.

God was MUCH more concerned about my purpose than changing my last name. He knew that He needed to pair me with someone who was individually pursing Christ the same way that I was pursing Him. I believe that if it was the will of God for my life, I would have waited even longer before I met Cornelius BUT God KNEW that we would come together & get BUSY about the Kingdom of God. He knew our hearts. He knew we wanted to please Him. He knew that our #1 concern in pursing His name. We were individually pursing Christ alone. The fork finally met & we knew within 15 minutes of meeting on January 3, 2009 that we were getting married one day.

Sis, I want to encourage you to get back to the place of worship and begin to trust God wholeheartedly.  As a NOW wife I SEE how much work goes into a marriage and I'm telling you that you want homeboy to have the basics. You're going to want your one-day marriage to glorify God and then when you DO have kids.. you're going to want your HUSBAND to lead your household as a Christian leader. You may not see how important it is because your clock is "ticking" but I want to remind you that Sarah got pregnant at 99. If you don't know who Sarah is-- read Genesis.

 So remove the words "I'm waiting for my man" from your vocabulary and replace them with "I TRUST GOD'S TIMING concerning EVERY AREA." We must become desperate for Christ and stop being desperate for a relationship.

You didn't get a ring this engagement season because it's not your TIME. YOUR ADAM has yet to awake (click on the link for the blog about it) and you cannot let those around you that are getting married DISTRACT you. On Christmas day 2008, I spent it alone with my family as a single woman. I met my now husband 9 days later. He proposed 12 months later.. on Christmas day 2009. You never know how God can turn things around! First step: Be content wherever He has you right now! Trust that if that DOOR was supposed to be opened, HE would have opened it.

(1 minute after Cornelius proposed!)

So what do you do in the interim?

1. Guard your heart: If Facebook is ruffling your feathers, maybe you need to pull away from it for a little while so you can focus. Stop watching stupid shows on TV that include sex, adultery, fantasies, or whatever else. Don't you realize those things can OPEN a door into your heart?

2. Be happy for others: If you aren't happy with yourself, you won't be able to be happy with others. So sit before God & be honest. You can tell Him that you're jealous & bitter and TIRED of being single. Ask Him to HELP you to want to WANT to be ok with being single.

3. Ask Him to show you the joys of being single. Get prepared to get tested.. but don't worry, the tests will make you stronger & mature you. Remember that you're SUPPOSED to be doing something during this season. What is God trying to accomplish & get you to DEVELOP in? Is He having a hard time because you're ignoring Him & focused on .. this world?

4. Find a local church & get involved! Surround yourself with like-minded Christian women! If you aren't in a Pinky Promise group, there's about 300 groups all over the world! These groups are SISTERHOODS. Period. We encourage each other-- build each other up. Work on studies every month and really keep each other accountable. www.pinkypromisemovement.com

5. SPEND TIME WITH GOD! Honey, when you're on your face before God-- you don't have time to be worry about what is on sister susie's ring hand finger! You're BUSY about PURSING God and you're TIRED at the end of the day. You won't have time to be jealous of anybody.

Stay focused & encouraged sis!

And before I go.. I'm BEYOND excited to announce that my FIRST book is being released next Friday, January 4th!!!! This book is for the woman that is completely dressed up and broken inside. It's for the woman that feels like.. she isn't doing enough, saved enough or whatever-enough. It's truly the all-in-one book for the woman after God's own heart! It will be available via Kindle, Amazon & my own personal site! To pair with the book, "Pink Lips & Empty Hearts" I'm coming out with my OWN lipstick line with 3 shades of PINK! I will share those details later AND the link to purchase the book when I have it!

Here's a few things I will discuss: 


Find contentment whether they are single or married
Develop a deep, intimate relationship with Christ
Eliminate the desire to play the comparing game
Prioritize their busy, day-to-day schedules
Develop and grow into the gifts that God has placed inside of them
BONUS: Practical tips about hair and beauty, as well as other money saving tips and resources





And speaking of rings.. I have a Pinky Promise Sterling Silver ring that you can wear on your left ring hand finger that serves as a reminder that you're married to Christ (Isaiah 54:5). So wear IT or another ring as a reminder until your one-day husband replaces it with your engagement ring. You can find it at the Pinky Promise Store! www.heatherlove.bigcartel.com. I've always said if you want a ring so bad, buy one & get over the hype. :)

AND Check out my new website that has my calendar and other fun updates about the new church we're starting in Atlanta, GA! :) www.heatherllindsey.com! 

God LOVES you like CRAZY,

Heather Lindsey

It was worth the trust.

61 comments:

  1. Congrats Heather! So happy for your new book release. Great article - so many of my friends got engaged this weekend.

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  2. I love this! Thank you for breaking it down and making it plain Heather!

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  3. I so needed this. Thank You for this posting and allowing God to use you to touch so many lives, specifically mine. I was good up until a week ago and I realized it was about to be Christmas and I would have to endure the interrogations as to why I am not married or haven't had any babies yet. Not to mention this week on Christmas day I realized I am 60 days from 30 years old and that put me in an even further funk, but I know God has spectacular plans for me and there is a purpose in His Will as to why I am single and I look forward to what is going to do in my life whether that includes a husband or not, thanks for the reminder.

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  4. BOOM!! Woah, your words touch my heart every time! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I was literally crying feeling sorry for myself because I saw an ex on FB that recently got married...but you helped lead me to the cross again! Heather you are a true inspiration...

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  5. Wow!! Thanks for this post, Heather! I've been struggling with this the past few days. Nearly all of my friends/cousins/classmates have recently got engaged,married,etc. and even though I'm happy for them deep down I get depressed and bitter because I'm thinking, "When is my time coming??" Actually, I've never had a serious boyfriend...I'm 26. :/ I started thinking that something was wrong with me. Everyone always says "enjoy being single" and "you have plenty of time" but I've always felt like I'm missing something. I decided to stop logging into fb a loooong time ago b/c I got depressed when I did. Thank you soooo much for this post, and congrats on your new book!


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  6. I commented earlier on this topic but again I feel that we as women can't hear this message enough! I've had so many conversations with friends about this topic and somewhere along the way "we" were "made" to believe that there is this "cut off" period for God to do what he said he was going to do. Some of us are inching 30 (I'm 28) or at/over 30 and the enemy has put this idea in the minds of so many women that "it's over." The possibility of marriage, of children, of careers etc. But you are right, you have to find that perfect peace in the arms of the Father FIRST. I was 22 and not thinking about marriage. Totally focused on God and just happy in that place. But when God sent my husband I knew. I heard God's voice as clear as day tell me this was him, he who He had been preparing for me and preparing ME for, and as much as the enemy tried to sell me lies (through other people) about me being "too young" or "not ready" my Daddy had spoken and delivered. It has been the most beautiful, fun, QUICK 5 years of my life and I would go back and do it all over again not changing a thing! God's timing is ALWAYS on time we just have to get our spirit to a place to believe in that not just in the area of marriage but I find this concept applies with finding a job as well. I'm sharing this a thousand times sis! Love it!

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    1. What did god say to you? You mentioned you heard him as clear as day...did things progress right after?

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  7. What about a woman like me who already has two kids and is not married that is really trying to live for god now ? Can God make all this work for my good because often I feel like I've gone too far on my own and what man will understand and want to be by my side in a partnership ? Please offer me a word to move forward from these thoughts thanks in advance and keep me in prayer

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    1. Hey love!
      If you've repented of your sins, then God has cleansed you from all unrighteousness! HE can still very much use you & present your one-day spouse to you with no problem! The same thing applies to you! I've messed up too in the past & although children weren't included.. I had a ton of other heartache & pain! Your babies are blessings from God and the right guy will understand! Stay focused!

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    2. Thank you Heather and Denise for this comment. I too am a single mother of 2 now celibate and trusting in God's timing. I think it's a little harder when you have a family but just can't seem to succeed in the relationship area. You feel like you will forever be a "baby momma". I prayed today for God to take away jealousy and bitterness toward others that are being blessed with marriage. I know that is the only way my heart can be open to recieving what God has for me. God Bless you Heather for all that you do, it has helped me so much.

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    3. Hey Elle, Awesome testimony just wanted to clarify that to be celibate is not having sex at all in life which is already ones whom are still virgins, you are abstinent meaning you have had sex before and are now waiting to have sex when you are married. These terms are often taught wrong in the media. God Bless you on your journey. Make sure you join a place of worship and get involved in the church so other single men can worship with you and seek God with you and I am sure your future husband will be among them.

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    4. @Janet thanks for that clarification. I never actually looked up the definition of the word but you are certainly right. Definitely not celibacy here.

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  8. Thank you, thank you, and thank you so much!

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  9. i recently made a desicion to follow the pinky promise movement.i love how it has given me a peace of mind.i have stopped to worry about been single and alone because God is with me.i just need to testify to how amazing the peace is when you do not have to worry about anything at all.when you know in your heart you are destined for greatness...you just need to stop seeking it and understand that the potter has a plan...Jesus is such a relief and this salvation my sisters...its amazing.its not a lie...its a promise we will all recieve signed...sealed and delivered!!!

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  10. Thank you for that. Sometimes we just need encouragement to know we are doing the right thing. I'm 28, a virgin, never dated and my family can't understand. I don't know how the dating has happened sooner but to be honest its never bothered me and I am definitely not ashame of it. I share my testimony all the time. I want God's best because His best is better than the rest. I think of Proverbs 18:22 "He who finds a wife finds a good thing." There are many interpretations to this scripture my understanding is this, God is preparing me to.be a wife, so when I am found, I am ready and will truly be a good thing. Thanks for the encouragement!

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    1. I am so proud of you!! THIS is awesome!! I'm praying for you sis!

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  11. Thanks for bringing back the expanded blog archive! I look forward to reading your book and seeing the lipsticks. Ever since my favorite pink lipstick was discontinued 3 years ago, I've patiently waited for a shade of pink lipstick that looks good on me. Hopefully one of your shades will look great on me. Anyway, thanks for the reminder in this post! I had this very conversation with one of my aunt's friends on Christmas Eve; it started when I saw her bracelet with Phil. 4:13 inscribed on it. I told her that my favorite verse was Phil. 4:6. We began chatting about our lives, and she asked me whether I was married. I told her how I loved being single and listed all of the things I can do that my married friends can't. She smiled and told me that I am in the best shape to get married because I am content with being by myself. She then told me how she believed that the reasons she doesn't go through all of the foolishness her friends experience in their marriages is because of their faith in Jesus, they thoroughly enjoyed themselves as singles and were ready to move on to another phase of life when they connected.

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  12. Thanks for being the obedient vessel that God is usuing to bless so many.
    Love you in Christ Sis
    Can`t wait to order a copy of that book on Jan 4 2012.

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  13. Wow, it's amazing how God will bring things full circle! Just Monday I decided to deactivate all my social media because I realized I wasn't connected to my spiritual walk as I once was. My days are so much better & I find myself full of Joy focusing back on myself & bettering my walk with Christ. You are such a inspiration & I pray Pinky Promises is in the Bay Area so I can get involved.

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  14. Sounds like you are demeaning marriages that aren't by "saved people." I'm just trying to understand. Are you saying that their marriages can't last because they aren't "saved"? That they won't be succesful. I believe that a saved couple and an unsaved couple have equal chances of getting divorced. It should depend on the people involved, shouldn't it?

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    1. Hello,
      I'm not demeaning marriages by those that aren't saved, I'm saying that we should pray for their salvation so that they can get saved. I'm not saying that their marriages won't last but I am saying that God is much more concerned about their salvation then their marriage. God is the Creator of EVERYTHING and He created marriage to bring Him glory. If a person is not saved.. their issues are much heavier than marriage.

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    2. I agree with Heather, I was discussing with my Sister yesterday about marriages of our friends. Most of them tell me and my sis (I'm close to 30 she is over 30-we and both single) that we should not wish for marriage its not anything worth wanting to have..looking at how what problems they are facing. But on the other hand some of my friends that are saved enjoy their married life more and I have NEVER heard them utter such words that marriage is bad. I think its all because if you seek God.. who is LOVE you are best placed in a position to love and work out your relationship than if one is not not saved.

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  15. Heather this blog just spoke to my heart. It is amazing how God works. I needed to hear this right now. You are a beautiful person.

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  16. Another really great blog packed with useful information.

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  17. I must share with a lot of women. I've learned not to compare my life with anyone else's especially if they do not know God. Trust in his timing is my mantra. Thanks for letting God use you, Heather.

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  18. Well said I must say. I am in the season of being single and when you have your trust in Christ and seek him your friends getting new boyfriends...getting engaged..married...having babies etc.. cant sway you because he places you in a place where there is more love from him.You just feel his love and you are also taught how to love.I am so happy for my friends and I pray for them and wish them well because that whats love is all about.. loving with all your heart.

    Its like you have just taken the words and feelings out of me. Thank you for putting it down!

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  19. I have to be honest. I'm REALLY struggling right now. Being single (for all my
    24 years) and watching everybody getting engaged has never bothered me as much
    as it has recently. The main thing that I wrestle with is that I'm not just
    single/without a relationship but without true friends, family, a welcoming
    church. This has been my life story thus far & no matter how much i pray & try
    to walk in love it still frustrates me. I try to keep myself going by reminding
    myself God has a plan in all of this but it's so difficult when year after year
    things are worse or theres no change.
    So for me it's not just about where's my ring which doesn't bother me nearly as
    much as where's your ever present help & the support I need?

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  20. Thank you sis!! Your blogs and emails are ALWAYS right on time!! One of my "friends" just got an engagement ring and it tore me up inside. I thought it was too soon, but it's not for me to decide. I need to have a heart check. Don't want jeolousy to consume me.

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  21. Heather,
    This post is totally what I needed. While I'm so happy for my friends who are becoming engaged, this time of the year can be discouraging to those of us who are single. Thank you for this encouragment and reminding me that it is ultimately God who will provide only the very best for me. As far as dating sites, those around me try to convince me to give it a try saying, "God only helps those who help themselves", what do you think about that statment in regards to dating sites?

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    1. Girl, where does it say that in the bible? lol!
      In regards to that dating sites.. I don't recommend them because they try to pair you with someone you are JUST LIKE and God usually pairs you with your opposite because your opposite develops you & you both eliminate each other's weaknesses. I personally don't recommend it but that's just my two cents. Christ tells us to seek Him, not a spouse. xo

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  22. I really needed to read this. this morning I found myself in tears wondering why is it happening for everyone around me but not me. I was honest with God and told him I am happy for others but a tad bit jealous at the same time..I'm ok now that I've read this blog..I know in due season God will give me the desire of my heart but in the meant time I'm going to be fulfilling my purpose.

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  23. Thank you! I needed this today!

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  24. Thank you for this! Such a blessing! Excited about your book!

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  25. Thank you very much Lindsey. I am going through the same thing and my best friend who is a guy sent me this to read. Am really touched by this. God's time is the best and those who wait on the Lord shall surely renew their strenght..cant wait to get your book. Bless u. Reiny.

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  26. I cried to God last night about this and I come to work and boom your email. Which I know its Him talking to me because you don't send frequent emails. My only thing is I want that feeling of wanting to get married out of my system. Your article is the story of my life, all my friends are married and engaged. I am the only one out of the bunch with no husband/fiancee and kids. I told God just give me success and get my mind off it. There is someone, and he is God-fearing, but all God is saying is wait and let it blossom, which at times I don't get it. Maybe we both not ready, however I hate feeling like this and I am so tired of people trying to hook me up and keep asking me why are you not married yet. I just focus on the other things that God place on my heart. I always question why do most women feel this way? Is this in our makeup to be married. Because I don't like that feeling like that at all. Hopefully God takes that urge away.

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    1. Hey love,
      It sounds like God put a desire in your heart to marry & He won't remove it honey which means HE will fulfill it! What you can do is.. make sure that your focus is on Christ no matter what. Become so content in HIM alone!! THEN, you will really look up & find that you're whole.. in a relationship & headed towards marriage! Whatever you give your attention to is what you will desire so you're going to have to fight to make sure that Christ is first & the desires are afterward. Whatever you have to have outside of Christ-- satan will use against you & have a field day in your mind. xo

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  27. Heather, I must say: I am so sick of you being in my busines. lol. I truly love you and believe that God sent you into my life. I was just on fb looking at the folks who got engaged this Christmas; one of whom was an ex. It stung a bit. Not because i so much want him but because I walked away from the relationship 5 years ago because he was not saved and a random and now HE's settling down getting married! You are right though, God's timing is what I am waiting on. I want HIS will for me and I desire peace more than a ring. Thank you for your obedience to the spirit. As always, you've encouraged me and God has used you to gently turn my head back to my lane. I love you and am praying for you sis.

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  28. So thankful for god-first bloggers and I'm very thankful for your encouragement!

    How would you end unhealthy worldy relationships?
    I don't want to sound like I'm "holier than thou" but I need to be focusing on Christ, and interested in godly men whenever God decides.

    Thanks so much!

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    1. Hey lovely!
      You just said it!! You can tell people that you're focusing on your relationship with God right now and you're not interested in dating. Who can argue or compare to that?

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  29. Nice blog, great read for women...and possibly men. But let me add on to it by telling a little story.

    A man was sailing in his boat when a huge wave capsized the boat leaving him stranded at sea. He prayed to God to save him. Prayed and prayed. Then a steamship comes along and sees the man and asks him if he needs help. The man says no he's waiting for God to save him. So the steamship steams on.
    The man bobs in the water a while longer then a speed boat sees the man stops and asks if he needs help the man says no, God is going to save me. I just have to have faith.
    4 hours later the man is getting really tired from treading in the water and he prays to God again. Please save me.
    Not long after a coast guard helicopter spots the man and offers to help him the man once again says no that he's waiting for what GOD HAS IN STORE FOR HIM. The helicopter flies on. Sadly, the man dies...

    A lot of women are living the story of aforementioned man. Simply waiting in the sea for a man that's unlike the one before while God continue to send them one. A man that might need a little work. One that might just need a push. One that might just need YOU! Moral of the story, you can always pray to God to send you a man, but you as a woman have to open yourself to what is truly being given to you. Even when you THINK he's NOT the man that's been sent to you because of the small things that you just can't seem to get pass. Let God be your guidance as YOU do the walking.

    "Proverbs 16:3 - Commit YOUR work to the Lord, and YOUR plans will be established."

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    1. Thank you for your timely comment. I think many women are single and Christian because they are waiting for the perfect man or opportunity to meet said main to drop into their lap. Just like The Most High will send people into a woman's life to help her become a better person, the same is true for a man. No man is perfect. I am learning that some people may need a little work, but you have to have Faith in The Most High that He knows the plans He has for you and that He knows best. I am going through this now myself. I enjoyed your story!

      Unfortunately, I see what you described happening far too often and then sadly, women will look up and be on the brink of 50 years old, still unmmarried, never engaged and no children, or alone with children, simply because they continued to reject what The Most High DID send them. Even the Word says, "if a woman of a man is not saved, he should not cast her aside." This is not admonishing people being unequally yoked, but it is stating that at times The Most High will bring a person to you to be your spouse or significant other so that YOU can help them. I feel this has happened many time with me and even vice versa, The Most High has sent me a godly man to help me continue on the right path.

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  30. Your blog is great. I just joined a Pinky Promise group and the ladies are definitely a sisterhood and they are awesome girls. I am growing in my walk with Christ and I feel like this is going to help.

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  31. Hi Heather! I really enjoy your blog. I had a baby in October and I was wondering if you thought it would be crazy to go through a period of celibacy with my child's father. We intend to get married, and despite having the baby I would like to attempt to do thing "the right way" and still try and honor God. Do you think its too late?

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    1. Hey love!
      NO! It wouldn't be crazy at all! Actually, it's the wise thing to do! The bible is clear when it says to abstain from sex outside of marriage and if you do-- be sure to repent & change directions. You having the baby and wanting to change-- is your CHANGE of directions. Pursue Christ sis-- no matter what and it is NEVER too late. Start right now, right when you read this. Repent & do what 1 John says.. & that is to stay in the light & make godly decisions. xo

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  32. I must say this article is amazing. I actually shed a tear because this message spoke to me. I would like to thank you for keeping single women motivated. While viewing others engagements and relationships there are major issues that some women tolierate (I.e cheating, lying , selfishness, and disrespect). God knows my heart and what I desire; I have faith he would lead me to a wonderful person. Again thank you so much for this :-)

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  33. Sorry heather! I thought my post didn't get published! Sorry for the double message! Thank u for responding!!!!

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  34. You are such a blessing Heather, your blog is a REAL help. Thank you so much for what you are doing.
    God bless you and your fams more than you can ever think or imagine.

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  35. Hi Heather,
    I am 56 years old and have been divorced for just about ten years with no randoms. I get very sad that I have not had a relationship this long. My youth is passing by, and I wonder if I will have sexual desire or my husband when he comes. I want to be married, I want to be loved by a man. Hugged. I don't even know what it feels like anymore. Please don't tell me to hug Jesus

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  36. I truly needed this. I got out of a relationship early last year, only to officially cut ties recently. I knew deep down that this person was not the one for me, and that he had done a lot to hurt me, but for some reason, I did not want to see him with someone else. I'm new in my walk with Christ, and once I began reading this blog, I knew it was God calling me to end all ties. And I did. He's already moved onto someone else, and although it shouldn't matter as much as it does, I hurt about it. All of my friends are getting engaged, and I'm literally the last woman standing alone. I know this is a journey of self discovery and development for me, but I often find myself a little down about this period of isolation. Is this normal? How do I cope?

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  37. Great read!! Needed to read this like yesterday. Encouraged! Thanks and congrats on your new book!

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  38. I'm thanking God for you right now. The words that God spoke through you were so inspirational. God Bless my sis

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  39. Hi. I'm french i'm 22 and I just discovered your blog, and its is really a joy for me to see that there are woman who truly serve Jesus-Christ, and really love Him with all their hearts. It's a real pleasur to read you, nowadays the devil uses women in order to destroy them, all this boyfriends stuff, sexual relation out of marriage,rape, lack of trust and love. And it's a real joy for me to see that God uses people like you to restore the image of women. Just a message of encouragement from France, continue in yout ministry put it in the hands of the Almighty, for the glory of His Name.
    I finish in French sois bénie ainsi que ta famille, ainsi que toutes les lectrices de ce blog. Accrochez vous à Jesus-Christ qui est le véritable cep, qui est chemin la vérité et la vie. Que Dieu vous bénisse.
    ps: sorry for my english I did my best :-)

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  41. I enjoyed the article it moved me to a good place

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  42. Thank u, Heather. I was greatly blessed by ur post and reminded to focus on my walk with God. I'm 36, single and never had a serious r/ship. Just last yr a good no of sisters around me got married and I've been wondering 'when will I ever get married'? But, I must confess, after reading this, I'm encouraged to keep delighting in the Lord. Thanks for being a worthy tool in the hands of our Lord!

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  43. I thank the lord for you.it is indeed an encouragement.there have been times when i have been frustrated as to why God gave me this desire to marry and instead no Adam in sight with your words of encouragement i know that his timing will be perfect when it comes to pass.The lord has been removing all the randoms in my life,i prayed 5 years ago for my husband whoever he is and i gave him what i wanted so i know he wont give me less than that.

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  44. What an inspiring story! It pays to wait indeed. :)

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