tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post7712391197350686588..comments2023-06-01T04:17:34.312-07:00Comments on Heather Lindsey: "How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage"Heather Lindseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02707438006120949384noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-10427608269570671082016-05-04T15:23:58.780-07:002016-05-04T15:23:58.780-07:00I love point that says laugh alot! A sense of humo...I love point that says laugh alot! A sense of humour is so imprtant in marriage. I also love the idea of going on marriage retreats. Mr. N and I should try that. This is an awesome post. Thanks for sharing!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.preciouscore.com/" rel="nofollow">Precious Core Blog</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15280762392483631241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-85540215652716045512016-05-02T05:38:41.438-07:002016-05-02T05:38:41.438-07:00Thanks a lot for your blog! I am a Clinical Social...Thanks a lot for your blog! I am a Clinical Social Worker registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers <a href="http://nickelridge.ca/services/counselling-services/" rel="nofollow">counselling sudbury</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-22774216671516434572016-05-01T08:31:50.971-07:002016-05-01T08:31:50.971-07:00Heather your blog was so awesome and exactly what ...Heather your blog was so awesome and exactly what I needed! I've been nagging my hub like crazy BC I feel that he hasn't been doing housework since he started working but he's working for our family! #princessproblems God bless you for sharing this. Also for the marriage retreat did you mean to put August 31st-Sept. 4th? Just wanted. Clarification for others that plan to join!! God bless!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16493489550008251305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-88938586371253771832016-04-30T14:24:35.301-07:002016-04-30T14:24:35.301-07:00Thanks so much biboblogs for your words of encoura...Thanks so much biboblogs for your words of encouragement and your prayers!!! I have been, and will continue!!! :-)Afrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03696539333111170601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-1737437904152175952016-04-30T02:12:47.337-07:002016-04-30T02:12:47.337-07:00Hey afro!its time to fight. Figjt for your home.on...Hey afro!its time to fight. Figjt for your home.on your knees before God.Lay this 2eight on him,the holy spirit doesnt want to have abrken home.I would pray fo4 you biboblogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460614893359517065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-80188441655197460652016-04-29T18:54:05.732-07:002016-04-29T18:54:05.732-07:00Even with infidelity God can redeem your marriage!...Even with infidelity God can redeem your marriage! I'm a testament to that! Sin will take you further than you want to go and keep you longer than you want to stay. If you don't stay on your face, interceding for him, who will? Sometimes the process of coming out of darkness is longer than our flesh wants to wait. If God doesn't move you, don't go anywhere! Sis, fast, pray and fast and pray! <br />Something that put things into perspective for me, because, when my marriage reconciled, I expected things to be perfectish...., was this word from my husband: "My grandparents have been married for 44 years. I'm sure they had 3 or 4 years that weren't exactly perfect. But they didn't quit. If we quit now, we will never get to 44 years of marriage." Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019851781412593850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-13450384157032017992016-04-29T11:02:17.065-07:002016-04-29T11:02:17.065-07:00Hi Heather... I too am wondering about what to do ...Hi Heather... I too am wondering about what to do about infidelity. I am a stay at home mom and a pastor's wife. I feel stuck. I have not confronted my husband. He will just deny it and lie. It's been going on for at least 2 years. He has cheated with several different women he met online. What do I do? I feel stuck? I can't tell anyone. I keep praying for the Lord to do something... I'm losing hope. As a Pastor's wife, can you please give me your advice?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-46101744058135280302016-04-28T08:43:33.129-07:002016-04-28T08:43:33.129-07:00What kind of advice would you give someone when th...What kind of advice would you give someone when there is infidelity involved? It changes everything doesn't it? When you think of someone who goes outside your marriage and does the unthinkable. Not once but multiple times. Now that is a big test to consider divorce over. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-18898482493497197262016-04-28T08:41:37.644-07:002016-04-28T08:41:37.644-07:00I understand all the reasons to stay. But would if...I understand all the reasons to stay. But would if infidelity is involved? I wonder if that happens in a marriage would a couple still have this outlook. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-66687110393454035662016-04-28T08:33:49.840-07:002016-04-28T08:33:49.840-07:00Hey sweets, their church does have Children's ...Hey sweets, their church does have Children's church. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-34390997893367637942016-04-28T08:18:32.198-07:002016-04-28T08:18:32.198-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348905793696409480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-90347310012344982762016-04-28T08:16:14.285-07:002016-04-28T08:16:14.285-07:00I have been married for 8yrs in June to a man that...I have been married for 8yrs in June to a man that has cheated constantly for each and every year except maybe 2 of them. I don't know why I have always accepted him back. Probably because I never truly caught him,just a woman's intuition. He has admitted to being with women when we talked on other occassions. But 2yrs ago,he had a full blown mistress that he actually fell in love with. I filed for a divorce, but last year ended up pregnant...somehow after my tubes were blocked! So, we got back together. He still have tried to talk to this woman again until I confronted her for the first time. I then tried to leave again and was turned down for a "rental "home (never was turned down before )! I can't seem to leave this man for the life of me for some unknown reason! It's like huge things keep stopping it! My coworker talked to me and told me she was the cheater in her marriage and told me some insightful things to cheaters. I am now praying for my husband, me and my marriage. You never know why GOD put a person in your life at certain times. I'm not the type to tell my business to just anyone....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348905793696409480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-24172940251806986372016-04-28T07:34:46.701-07:002016-04-28T07:34:46.701-07:00Keep all in prayer for those who are not married t...Keep all in prayer for those who are not married to Christian men or maybe even worse, a man who claimed over and over he wanted to be and is now struggling in his faith. Number 9 is applicable to the couple where BOTH are submitting to Christ. If more MEN feared God how different our communities and country would be. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-34145149155284554092016-04-28T04:01:04.871-07:002016-04-28T04:01:04.871-07:00Princess Anne, thank you so much for reaching out ...Princess Anne, thank you so much for reaching out to me. I will do that. It's been 7 years, and we are currently separated going on 6 months. He recently told me he wants to be single and do what he wants to do when he wants to do it. I've tried to plea, ask for counseling, but he's not hearing any of it. I truly appreciate this. I was just going to file for the divorce since he said he wants to be single and just co-parent for our kids. We both are in church and he's a musician, unfortunately our problems began when we started to lean towards other genres of music and playing in clubs, casinos, etc. May God bless you for responding to me and helping me through this. I've been fasting and praying about all of this. Afrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03696539333111170601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-38887727206964325232016-04-28T01:48:21.460-07:002016-04-28T01:48:21.460-07:00Thank you for this piece. Not yet married but tryi...Thank you for this piece. Not yet married but trying to learn everything possible. This was very helpful, especially the part about your husband not being your God and the need to connect to God. God bless you.ChizzyTofunmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02956505562524716704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-39059360274866823552016-04-28T01:08:56.199-07:002016-04-28T01:08:56.199-07:00Am still very far from marriage only 20, but I'...Am still very far from marriage only 20, but I've learnt so much and my perspective about marriage has changed. I watch a lot of movies so am all fairytales when it comes to relationships , well reality ain't so bad. I can't wait to finish school and get married. What a lovely and mighty God we serve he's always there and faithful to us #innerjoy...thank you HeatherAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18360861226445996193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-29736787868685833592016-04-27T22:48:13.430-07:002016-04-27T22:48:13.430-07:00Wow! Heather! It's amazing how God always put ...Wow! Heather! It's amazing how God always put His words in season in your mouth. You just spoke the mind of Christ to me and I am more determined to make my marriage work than ever before. God bless you Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226582878004722582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-48523035493187013082016-04-27T22:21:53.855-07:002016-04-27T22:21:53.855-07:00Hi Afro, it's normal to feel like you should l...Hi Afro, it's normal to feel like you should lose hope but just as Heather said, we should talk to God about our husbands. I'm sure you've prayed. However I'll like you not to forget that the heart of a king is in the hands of God. Specifically ask the Lord to give your spouse (or the spouse of the person on whose you asking)a change of heart. <br />Marriage is a covenant sis, and God hates covenant breakers. If your marriage ever would fail in a divorce (God forbid)it should never be because of YOU. Stay faithful in your post. God rewards faithfulness. Praying for you! Princess Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00939736889909386314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-82716316177220256492016-04-27T22:17:21.216-07:002016-04-27T22:17:21.216-07:00hey fellow sister.. im no Heather but l can try h...hey fellow sister.. im no Heather but l can try help.. Someone wise once said doing the same thing over and over again but expecting the different esults is not the best way. l think trying to talk t your man is now evident that its not working and its clearly getting you upset. so why dont you try easing back and go tell the lord everytging instead evrytime you feel like raising anything with your man. Try forgiving him first..forgive yourself and take it to the Lord. its not easy but confess wat you also want to see e.g......I am living in a great marriage....I am in love with my husband....l am married to a great man... l dont kno you..or your man but l do kno that if we give God that God spot back in our lives He will fight for us. Thank God your man is a christian at least now we know one day that Spirt in him shall convict him so lets focus on your strengths ...hs strengths and have faith in God. I am praying you make it sister........Love a sister who is concerned tooAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06061137305777008895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-80722982809172720492016-04-27T21:19:06.585-07:002016-04-27T21:19:06.585-07:00Absolutely love it. I truly love your wisdom.........Absolutely love it. I truly love your wisdom......Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10920614845722709917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-36525547837259111012016-04-27T20:59:40.791-07:002016-04-27T20:59:40.791-07:00Hi does your church here in atlanta has a sunday s...Hi does your church here in atlanta has a sunday school for toddlers so parents can enjoy the word being delivered.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05525905613079558629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-59261379810388343552016-04-27T20:59:21.259-07:002016-04-27T20:59:21.259-07:00Hi does your church here in atlanta has a sunday s...Hi does your church here in atlanta has a sunday school for toddlers so parents can enjoy the word being delivered.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05525905613079558629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-16683754686646507472016-04-27T20:16:21.708-07:002016-04-27T20:16:21.708-07:00Sorry, but I couldn't help but reply to you me...Sorry, but I couldn't help but reply to you message. Sister, "PRAY". Find scriptures on God honouring marriages and stand on Gods word. He will turn things around, fight for your marriage. Get angry with the enemy and start decreeing and declaring the word over your marriage and husband. The devil is a LIAR. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07941113305570224077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-79412478732481422682016-04-27T19:31:07.435-07:002016-04-27T19:31:07.435-07:00I understand what you're going through. I thou...I understand what you're going through. I thought I wrote this lol. Only difference is that my husband is not involved in church. We will be married for a year in June. We've had some ROUGH patches! I'm happy to say that it's gotten better. There are days when I feel like he doesn't spend time with me or our son. In fact, I feel like TV is more important to him. Instead of nagging him, I decided to look at why I was depending on him so much to make me feel better. I had to remember that God is first in my life and if I feel like my husband isn't spending time with me, then I'll go spend time with the Lord. My husband has gotten better at showing that he wants to spend time with me. I know everybody's journey is different. I want to encourage you to not to get discouraged and continue to pray. I know it's hard, but don't let the enemy win. I'm praying for you! Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-48326556946159797822016-04-27T17:29:28.219-07:002016-04-27T17:29:28.219-07:00Agree. After being married for 15 years, we are co...Agree. After being married for 15 years, we are constantly growing.. my husband is perfect for ME and we are perfect for each other. God put us together for a reason and I'm glad he did because I cannot imagine my life without him. I am blessed.tatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15007395283437297945noreply@blogger.com