tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post4536708850256892819..comments2023-06-01T04:17:34.312-07:00Comments on Heather Lindsey: "How to Recognize a REAL Friend"Heather Lindseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02707438006120949384noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-40790876170870225342014-04-08T00:38:04.210-07:002014-04-08T00:38:04.210-07:00I've recently been having friendship problems ...I've recently been having friendship problems myself. I think it's my season to walk alone. But while this season is happening, I'm working on my relationship with God. And I know eventually God will send me better friends. Thanks for this post, I'll know what to look for next time. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-38980842807572062672012-12-30T01:17:41.019-08:002012-12-30T01:17:41.019-08:00Amen and amen! Heather you are so right!!!:-) I...Amen and amen! Heather you are so right!!!:-) I'm learning to trust the Holy Spirit to straighten people out way more than i used to. Like you said, I'm not God! He can deal with people's heart at the root! Love you Heather! I thank God for you:-)<br /><br />Love always,<br /><br />Zakiya JenkinsZakiyaSayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03261379172294785431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-51688320290484462392012-10-02T16:32:40.776-07:002012-10-02T16:32:40.776-07:00reading this blog has given me so much clarity bec...reading this blog has given me so much clarity because I have recently lost a best friend due to my actions. I realize now and accept that though she wasn't perfect, she was loyal and a true friend to me. But I wasn't to her and so did not appreciate the gift of her friendship. Losing her has hurt me greatly but have made me realize that i cannot hope to have a true friend if i do not portray those same qualities myself. I have lost almost all my friends and it gets lonely but i thank you for writing this blog because i will read and reread it to push me to be better and in so, accept better. Mabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10509067482362941582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-8172725993013271522012-08-04T20:48:39.339-07:002012-08-04T20:48:39.339-07:00My best friend has gone through everything with me...My best friend has gone through everything with me, but just recently she has joined a lifestyle that is not in the right direction. She has started smoking, drinking, taking pills, and bisexual. I love her to death, but even though she doesn't try to push me to do those things I don't know how to be around her as much without feeling awkward. In addition, she is my roommate this year for my first year of college and I'm so scared that our 7 year friendship is going to end after this year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-51240099719251879012012-06-26T07:26:03.979-07:002012-06-26T07:26:03.979-07:00Hi Heather,
A friend, yes a friend :-) recently in...Hi Heather,<br />A friend, yes a friend :-) recently introduce me to you blog and I have been gobbling up all that I can from your postings. However this is the only one that I have commented on thus far. It was predestined that I be led to this site at this particular point in my life. I must say that I love your blantant honesty, that is very rare today. Recently I have lost almost all the people in my life that I thought of "friends" because God chose to transition me. Even as I write this I am still struggling with someone that I thought was my bf, but your posting certainly gives clarity to my situation. Immense thanks go out to you, thus I encourage you to continue doing this great the few friends that I have ministry it is like oasis in the desert. continue to be bless and favored.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-56349665265840249742012-06-04T06:34:52.375-07:002012-06-04T06:34:52.375-07:00am so inspired . there are times when i feel i am ...am so inspired . there are times when i feel i am all alone. but i realise i have a friend who really does stick out for me . she is there no matter what . i am so glad that i have such a friend in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-15492209980492322072012-05-23T14:30:58.384-07:002012-05-23T14:30:58.384-07:00Just when I thought I was over crying for a friend...Just when I thought I was over crying for a friendship over 15years old that has seem to go down south!!!!! Thanks for this...I will re-read and apply to my life. I'm responsible for me...Lord God knows that your heart grieves when a relationship that was no longer considered a friendship but a sisterhood goes south...but to God be the Glory!!! I do ask that you pray for me...it still really hurts at times...and I want to make sure that I'm blameless and don't allow my frustration blind me from seeing the bigger picture.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-76840678913210599762012-05-23T10:22:58.418-07:002012-05-23T10:22:58.418-07:00Thank you so much for posting this...
I am learnin...Thank you so much for posting this...<br />I am learning how to be a friend all over again bcuz of a past hurt. THANK U SO MUCH!Keonianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-8679667912325995372012-05-11T11:51:31.964-07:002012-05-11T11:51:31.964-07:00im a christian and a work in progress...so my two ...im a christian and a work in progress...so my two best friends have suddenly cut all ties with me because of my boyfriend. He's a christian but he also did not so christian things. But what bothers me is that its clear they don't like him but i feel like they came together to talk about me and him and decided to abandon me. it really hurts my feeling bc i don't have much friends and i considered them sister to me.we are all christians but they both suddenly became extremely devoted.i pray every day and read my bible and God has revealed to me on several occasions that he was not the one. so i recently broke it off with him. for GOOD. its been really hard but its even harder because i don't feel like i can talk to my girls its so awkward between us now. and i really don't know what to do.I just been praying a lot but what advice do you have for me?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-28940629421988023502012-05-11T11:42:26.364-07:002012-05-11T11:42:26.364-07:00Your blog is EVERTHING I NEEDED TO HEAR TODAY. I&#...Your blog is EVERTHING I NEEDED TO HEAR TODAY. I'm fasting and i was tempted to eat i almost broke my fast and your blog fed me everything i needed to eat. I don't think its by chance that i came across your blog..God will continue to do wonders in your life and bless you <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-26374228429623473162012-05-07T06:52:52.466-07:002012-05-07T06:52:52.466-07:00abosolutely love!abosolutely love!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-32174860232549494072012-05-05T20:22:01.268-07:002012-05-05T20:22:01.268-07:00Being lonely isn't a bad thing-- usually when ...Being lonely isn't a bad thing-- usually when we're lonely-- God is drawing us back to a closer relationship to Him. <3Heather Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02707438006120949384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-54643844358873517832012-05-05T12:44:48.778-07:002012-05-05T12:44:48.778-07:00This post definitely put why I'm friendless in...This post definitely put why I'm friendless into perspective even though I've been a great friend. It was true but makes me feel hella lonely.. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-22776397962986884392012-05-03T10:36:13.294-07:002012-05-03T10:36:13.294-07:00Tricey Banks
I have known Dalan and Heather since...Tricey Banks<br /><br />I have known Dalan and Heather since 2000. Wow, can you two believe it has been that long. When Heather says they have been through it I can attest to that. I can also agree that no matter what the two have always had each other back. <br /><br />You guys are beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-77229557669404762082012-05-02T12:30:01.118-07:002012-05-02T12:30:01.118-07:00Love, Love, Love..youre a great role model :)!!!Love, Love, Love..youre a great role model :)!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-51018506079691268422012-04-07T14:14:28.962-07:002012-04-07T14:14:28.962-07:00THANK YOU!!!!!!!! stay blessed :)THANK YOU!!!!!!!! stay blessed :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-34594714106080944352012-03-27T20:55:04.619-07:002012-03-27T20:55:04.619-07:00This is definitely an on time post. Coming to coll...This is definitely an on time post. Coming to college you figure out people who are really your friends and people who are simply not. I had trouble with this and it is confirmation that sometimes God wants us to walk alone for a season so he can have our full attention! Thank you! xoxo<br />Oneisha Ford <br />www.princesso92.blogspot.comOneisha Fordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08002602477491219049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-58289479534162769682012-03-15T10:40:35.431-07:002012-03-15T10:40:35.431-07:00Hey love! Sounds like you've talked to her abo...Hey love! Sounds like you've talked to her about Christ and about the situation before. She KNOWS that what she is doing is wrong-- hence the conviction & the desire to be with her guy & not go to church, etc. I have to be honest with you--with people like that, I say what I have to say & then shut up. I've learned that I'm not God and I cannot force people to change. PEOPLE are gonna do what PEOPLE what to do. She also has the Holy Spirit convicting her as well. God can do a better job of bringing someone to Christ by getting their heart than we can. So what do we do?? LOVE them. Even if we have to pull away from them for a season if God is directing us. But if she's in your life now, you show her the love of God by gracing her & being there for her. Eventually, she'll hit rock bottom & turn her heart to Christ and you'll be RIGHT there to pray for her & encourage her. "The goodness of God brings a man to repentence"- Romans 2:4. Praying for you both! xoHeather Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02707438006120949384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-70635294819031136192012-03-14T18:26:46.522-07:002012-03-14T18:26:46.522-07:00Hi Heather,
Your blog is absolutely amazing. My t...Hi Heather,<br /><br />Your blog is absolutely amazing. My twin posted this to me and I have been so blessed. I love that your so stylish and all (our bodies are temples and so we got to look after it lol). I love that your so real which is important. My new word - no random lol. It's good to be able to read and learn from a Godly woman like you and is also an encouragement that there are people pursuing a relationship with Jesus around the globe. You are an inspiration and God is going to use you to speak truth into so many women's life.<br /><br />I have a problem, my friend who will call herself a Christian is in a sexual relationship with her boyfriend who is also a Christian and they both go the the same church back home. We both at uni and I invited her to church, she's come about three times in the last 18 months and I think its because she got convicted by the Holy Spirit. I don't know how to tell her in a loving way and not seem to be judgemental about her relationship because she is the kind of person who thinks she is always right and would never admit she's wrong. I've also stopped talking to her about God and inviting her to events, life group(small group) and church as she never comes or gives an excuse (her boyfriend sort of told me off for doing so and I tried to explain in her presence my reason for doing so). I now only see and talk to her when we walk to uni together sometimes or in lectures and I barely go round hers any more because she never comes round mine, I've walked out of hers a couple of times before and also I don't want to encourage her and her boyfriend to stay in together as they are living like married couple but not technically cohabitating . She is a lovely girl and her boyfriend is as well just that he thinks he is too clever (I really do love both of them). Her boyfriend, her flatmate and I are the only people she is close to and would probably call friends. I know I should pray for her and I think she is kind of lonely (as I went from always being at hers to never being there)but I find myself not wanting to give grace which is really wrong because who am I not to and them having a sexual relationship really bothers me more than it does my non-christian friends which again is should not be so as sin committed by all should have the same reaction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-90172558710770665402012-03-14T12:27:42.223-07:002012-03-14T12:27:42.223-07:00Heather -
This is so great & always needed. I...Heather -<br /><br />This is so great & always needed. I remember when friendships (real ones) were hard to come by back in high school; even now in my 20s. I think the scriptures you gave the the friendship traits to look for were on point!<br /><br />- Ashlee ChuAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03892583961641846073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-38832596229660594182012-03-12T07:15:41.062-07:002012-03-12T07:15:41.062-07:00Heather this post speaks to my current situation. ...Heather this post speaks to my current situation. God told me to clean up my list of friends years ago and I kept the wrong one close by for the simple fact that she's Christian and we are apart of the same ministry. For years she's had good seasons and bad seasons in our friendship and I've obviously taken the lesson of long suffering in the bible the wrong way. She has discouraged me in my goals, disguised bitter comments as jokes, and shown jealousy in my relationship with her family, our mutual friends, and a previous relationship with a non-random. It took me a while to realize that even when I was still going before God on her behalf I didn't like her as a person anymore, which makes me sad because I don't not like people too often. And a few weeks ago following surgery and a few life changes God laid me down on the altar in tears after my Pastor spoke these words "God says, you don't have to always be strong for everyone else. It's ok." And that's all it took really to reexamine this drain on my life, where I was pouring into a few people with no return. It's unhealthy.<br />I really hope one day to have sister in Christ that will mutually support me, pray for me, and laugh with me.Olivenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-17610890824622139772012-03-10T15:40:02.896-08:002012-03-10T15:40:02.896-08:00Oh my goodness Heather!! This was sooooo opportune...Oh my goodness Heather!! This was sooooo opportune, perfect, and on point!!!! I'm so glad God told me to come read your webpage!! This was a Rhema word for sure! I <3 you........I am on a facebook hiatus.so I don't get to catch your uplifting facebook post anymore.....but I'm so glad that you're blogging!! Anyway sending lots of love your way all the way from Dallas, TX!!! - Kim<br /><br />P.S. You are also an aweomse selfLESS friend for this wonderful ode to the people that God has placed in your life!! <3<3Kimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-78130111178189431222012-03-09T11:55:53.955-08:002012-03-09T11:55:53.955-08:00This post is such a great blessing! Thank you for ...This post is such a great blessing! Thank you for sharing and encouraging:)Akilahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-19683868210432999212012-03-08T14:17:10.060-08:002012-03-08T14:17:10.060-08:00This is amazing! It's great to have friends li...This is amazing! It's great to have friends like that in our space.Chymerehttp://www.chymerehayes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5872995691133366505.post-30864669187490482952012-03-06T16:22:56.640-08:002012-03-06T16:22:56.640-08:00I love this blog Heather! I love that you love bei...I love this blog Heather! I love that you love being used by GOD! Amen, to great agape friendships...Kashanoreply@blogger.com